HE SHOULD'DA DONE IT THIS WAY

“HE SHOULD’DA DONE IT THIS WAY”

There have been many debates concerning what is the most popular sport of our nation. Some say it is football, others claim it has to be basketball, while others hold to the belief that it must the “national pastime” of baseball. Though I thoroughly enjoy all three, I totally disagree with all of the above. In my opinion, the most popular sport in our country is armchair quarterbacking.

I have watched hundreds of games of all three of these sports through the years, and there is a common thread that connects them all. In every game, some of the fans (if not all) will disagree with and criticize the decisions of the coach or the players. This will involve yelling at the coach or players while sitting in the bleachers, or screaming at the TV, or simply talking it over with others around the company water cooler the following day, but in essence it is all the same. They are saying “I believe I could’da done it better.”

This belief is not limited to sports, unfortunately. Many of us are watching how others are living life, and we just know that we could be doing it so much better than that. You know what I mean…the way someone is handling their finances, their job, their marriage, or raising their kids, and etc. These people-watchers are confident that if it had been up to them, they certainly could have managed the situation so much better.

Ouch.

On one occasion many years ago, I had on my church staff a bright, but brash young youth minister. One day he came into my office and proclaimed, “If I was the pastor of this church, here’s how I would have handled this certain situation.” To which I replied, “Let’s settle this right now. You are not the pastor. You are not going to be the pastor, and you have no idea how you will have to handle a situation like this until you are a pastor.”

Until you actually are in a situation, you really cannot be certain how you will handle it. Looking at a problem from the outside, versus being immersed in the problem, gives the person a whole different perspective. I distinctly remember my Mom used to say, “Tend to your own knittin’. If they need your advice, they will ask.” In other words, take care of issues in your own life, there is enough there to keep you busy.

Folks, until we have learned how to properly deal with our own finances, our own family issues, or our own personal sins, we surely do not have all the answers for someone else. We can pray, support, encourage, lend an ear, or be a shoulder to lean on….but we cannot presume to make decisions for someone else’s life. We simply have not walked in their shoes.

I think Mom had it right….”Tend to your own knittin’.”